Why

 "Heaven has no rage like love to hatred turned, Nor hell a fury like a woman scorned," 
   William Congreve

One of my friends is attempting a relationship. I'm watching with humor as I mentally prepare myself to do the same. Why do I find humor in this? I don't know. Maybe it's not humor because I'm not laughing in amusement.... but stunned bemusement might fit, because it has happened to all of us women at some point. But it's more of a morbid fascination with how it is proceeding and how he has been fucking up lately. And we sit by on the sidelines saying 'what happened'?

Us women tend to over decipher everything, so we are told... and there is that famous line just sitting out there for us to look at, stare at and cock our heads at in taunted bemusement.
"Men are simple creatures."

Or there is that other one; "if a guy likes you he will make an effort." Or hey that other one... don't over think men because all they really care about are three things. "Boobs, beer and sports."

Men say they are blindsided by our fury, that comes out of nowhere. But a man builds it to the fury level and we try to not over think shit (we think less because we have progressed as women in our forties) but if they are so damn simple why does this stuff happen (will explain below) when they know they could get some.. in a nice hotel somewhere halfway between their lives, maybe have a beer from the corner store or over dinner. His three needs are being met...boobs, beer and sport. So why didn't he call to get it, when he has been calling and making an effort the last two months.

So this is the scenario. They met in early January and started with conversation that has progressed to dating and making time to see each other. They have now spent weekends together and had long talks on the phone. This week they tentatively set up a meet half-way meeting date and then he does not call to confirm or deny. Then he does not take her call to confirm or deny and no word for over twenty-four hours. Then he calls after the fact and acts like nothing happened, so she takes the call and makes plans to call him back because she is busy when he does finally call. Then his phone goes straight to voice mail and still three days later she is clueless to what has happened and why and the fury is building. And he acts like nothing happened. 

What has happened here? Was it miscommunication? A date with another women? Death? Dismemberment? What!

Why do men do that?